Self-love is literally the most important love that you will ever receive in your life. A lot of people say that if you don’t have self-love then you don’t know how to love others. Is that true? Well, I can tell you from my experiences that it is true. You do need self-love in order to love others. We live in a world where society really does make it hard to love ourselves. For women, it is even harder to look at ourselves in the mirror and say that we are beautiful. Women are so harsh about the way they look and I am personally one of those women. I look in the mirror and don’t see the beautiful young lady that everybody else says they see. I don’t feel beautiful and it is time for me to finally find the love of my life; me!
I’ve been struggling with not loving myself for a long time. Since middle school, I’ve had this discomfort about my outer appearance and thought when I get to high school I’m going to look better and feel better about myself. When I got to high school I said give me until my second year in college and I’m going to be super “bad”, whatever that means. Now, here I am in my second year of college and I still feel like I haven’t met my baddie “goals”. I compare myself to people that pay money to change themselves, I put myself down for not looking a certain way, and I blame myself for looking how I look. It has become something strenuous on me and I refuse to deal with it anymore. God made me this way, and I should be happy. I’m not happy though. Why is that? I still don’t know the answer to that question.
I came to the conclusion after a venting session with myself that I need to really learn how to love me. I don’t give myself enough credit.
I decided to make this a journey to share with everyone. Everybody needs a little bit of self-love from time to time and I would love to inspire someone while I encourage myself. I have purchased two books that will help me achieve the end goal of this journey. The name of those books are Madly in Love With ME: The Daring Adventure of Becoming Your Own Best Friend by Christine Arlyo and the second book is called The Self-Love Experiment: Fifteen principals For Becoming More Kind, Compassionate and Accepting of Yourself by Shannon Kaiser. The first book is giving you permission to treat yourself as a best friend would. The second book allows you to put yourself first and do what you want in order to find happiness within yourself. Both books come with exercises to do that are supposed to get you out of your comfort zone. I am all for getting out of my comfort zone because that is how you figure out what you love to do. I am extremely ready for this ride down the road of self-love and I can’t wait for you guys to see my progress.