Last time I posted I talked about starting my journey to self-love. I decided that the first book I was going to read is The Self-Love Experiment: 15 principles for Becoming More Kind, Compassionate, and Accepting of Yourself by Shannon Kaiser. One of the chapters in the book is called Difficult Roads Lead to Divine Destinations. This book so far has taught me so much. The start of this chapter was deep, and all I had read was the title.
One thing that really stood out to me when I was reading was this quote that said,” I really had only two choices: Change what I couldn’t accept, or accept what I couldn’t change (as the proverb suggest).”This sat with me for a long time. There are plenty of things that I don’t like about myself and never have I thought about this. I refuse to accept the weight that I am, but I didn’t have the motivation to work out. I could either change this about myself or accept it for what it was and learn to love it. I started to push myself to lose weight and go to the gym because that’s something that I can change. I feel better about myself because of this. I have been going to the gym 3-4 times a week because when I look in the mirror, I want to love myself and smile. I’m not there yet, but I know I will be there soon.
Another section in the book that caught my attention was The Magic of Self-Care. What exactly is self-care? According to Shannon Kaiser, self-care is the most basic form of self-love. You should do what you feel is best for you. If you feel like working out is in your alignment, then you do that. If being a vegetarian is in your alignment, then be a vegetarian. The most important thing about self-care is that you do what you feel is important. What is truly detrimental to our Self-love/self-care is conforming and forcing ourselves to fit into something that isn’t meant to fit. This is the metaphor for our lives says Ms.Kaiser.
At some point in your life, you have to ask yourself; what is it that I am doing to myself that is not serving me correctly? I asked myself this and came to the conclusion that I don’t do for me. I don’t appreciate me. I don’t give myself a break, and those are habits I have to break. These are habits that are hindering me from being happy. The book says to look at every experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. My venting session that led me to go on this journey was my first experience to learn and grow, and now every page I read and every day that goes by is an opportunity to learn and grow. I’ve accepted this as my journey and I am letting that inner little girl who wants to be loved, out.
Do you believe in divine timing? I surely do. The book states that; A variety of things happen because of divine timing. Sometimes we try to force things to happen when they simply aren’t ready. Things happen when they are meant to happen. This self-love journey wasn’t meant to happen 2 years ago or even last year. This journey was meant to happen right now. My maturity was a seed that was planted last year and is now growing into something beautiful. All I needed was to put my trust into divine timing and put my faith into something bigger.