We all wonder at some point in our life if someone ever invented a time machine, would we go back and do something different. Well, Let’s say I invented the imaginary time machine and I want to go back 5 years ago. I am 20 years old now which means I would visit my 15-year-old self. 15-year-old Alexus was pretty lit. She had a giant personality that really seems to get bigger as she gets older, but there is some advice I would want to give to her and all other 15-year-old girls. To be specific, I have three Tips or pieces of advice that I would give myself if I could visit my 15-year-old person.
Baby Girl You are AMAZING:
At this age I feel like girls don’t give themselves enough credit, at least I didn’t. Girls experience a lot in their teenage years. At 15 I experienced school life, relationships (friend and boyfriends), and growing up a girl. Honestly, I could’ve just said growing up a girl and I think that would’ve defined everything. Being a teenage girl is hard. I was insecure and always felt like I needed confirmation from some guy to feel special. That mindset hurt me when it came to relationships with potential boyfriends (I say potential because I thought they had potential to be boyfriends, but always ended up doing something wrong before it got to that stage). It hurt me because whenever they did something wrong my mind would think that it was my fault. Like I would think, “oh man I must not be that cute if he can talk to that other girl.” Never in my head did I think it was their fault for not being physically and emotionally mature enough to handle my maturity when it came to relationships. I let their lack of understanding about what loyalty is, define how beautiful I was inside and out. So for that, I would tell my 15-year-old self to love yourself, sis, because it is a hard world out here and knowing you are this amazing individual will always be a shining light to get you through the dark.
Girl, your attitude is GROSS
Hormones are raging and I could have an attitude ready in the back of my head in .2 seconds at 15. I was quick with the mouth and the comebacks and everybody in my household hated it. So, some small advice for a very big attitude I would give to myself is to fix that attitude girl. I learned I wasn’t the only one who was like this after watching the Netflix series Big Mouth, but it was never right to do. *side note: sorry mom about the attitude you received from me. I am eternally grateful for you not slapping me in my mouth every time I was sarcastic, your patience, and all that you do for me now. You caught most of the attitude so it is only right I give you a shoutout! LOVE YOU! end of side note*
Peoples Opinions are Peoples Opinions
Young girls take what people think of them way too seriously. 15-year-old me sure did take what people thought of her to heart. Even 18 and 19 years old me took what people thought of her and ran with it. but I would tell my 15-year-old self that peoples opinions are peoples opinions. Opinions are meant to express what one feels about a person, place, thing, or idea. If a person doesn’t like you then it’s okay. It took me a long time to realize that my personality (in its entirety, cause it is huge) is not for everyone. You weren’t put on this earth as a person to be liked. You were put on this earth to serve a purpose. May that purpose be to help and guide others or to saves lives, your purpose was never to satisfy peoples negative opinion about you. 15 year-old-me would need to understand that because she didn’t back then.
I feel like if I had this advice earlier I wouldn’t have gone through my self-love journey in my college years, but that shaped me into the person I am today. I also believe that women don’t ever really find the true appreciation for themselves and if I could’ve realized it at age 15 then I wouldn’t have any problems knowing it at 19. Without that self-love journey, I wouldn’t have started this blog (lord know I would be sad about that), but I would’ve realized earlier that I was pretty amazing and you are truly amazing too!
Thank you guys for tuning into my latest blog. I really didn’t know what to talk about, but I thought this would be an interesting concept. Feel free to tell me what advice you would give to your 15-year-old self and why you think it would affect the outcome of your life now. Also, feel free to leave some suggestions on things I could write about. I love you guys and hope you have a blessed week! 💜